BETRAYAL TRAUMA

Betrayal traumas occur when someone who we depend on and are significantly attached to – a spouse, parent, lover, business partner, or friend – betrays our trust and lets us down in a critical way.

At Newlife Psychology we specialize in treating two primary types of betrayal trauma:

Childhood betrayal traumas resulting from a caregiver in some way significantly violating the child’s vulnerability, dependence and well-being (including childhood sexual abuse).

Adult betrayal traumas resulting from significant incident(s) of broken trust and violation of the vulnerability in the relationship with a partner. 

Infidelity/Affairs:

Infidelity of any kind, whether emotional or sexual, attacks the most deeply held trust in a relationship. It is a violation of the agreement that two people have made to hold certain parts of their lives and relationships as sacred and set apart for just the two of them. When this trust is violated is creates deep insecurity, fear and uncertainty in the relationship. For couples dealing with infidelity, changes in behavior and promises to be faithful help but do not get to the deep healing that is often needed in order for couples to be able to repair the damage and move into the future together wholeheartedly. The deeper healing happens when the betrayed partner feels strongly met, understood and held on an emotional level by the other partner, restoring a sense of safety and connection in the relationship. Our therapists work with couples to help them learn how to do this for one another and to create a new never before experienced bond.